Whether it’s a younger person giving it up for an older or a person that’s done shopping clearing room for the public, there are many types of seat-stealers out there. Although you might not think much of what you’re doing, and how you’re doing it, you still are; you’ve got a nice bag, you like to take care of that bag and ergo you place the bag on the seat as not to get dirty. Though this might not seem like such a big deal, to some it means all the world and therefore you receive, The Look.
The look, something I’m sure many of us public transport people are familiar with. That look he or she gives you when, well, your silly purse is taking up a seat. No not because there’s ample room or because somethings preventing you, no, just because you want to. You want that extra seat for that so-called extra-special bag.
As a society we have come to love all things designer and we know that designer comes with a price tag, a high one . You’ve spent countless weeks or months saving the hundreds if not thousand of dollars it costs to buy whatever it bag is currently in. And you think to yourself “I didn’t just spend all that money only to set it on the ground, or weight down my lap with it. No, no, my bag deserves a seat; Ms. Quilted Chanel deserves a seat of her own!” Does this sound like you? Because even if it doesn’t, it actually looks like you.
Here’s why. It’s not that you’re doing it on purpose or that your actually conscious of what you’re doing, no, it’s become second nature. By knowledge and instinct when those door lights are blinking and the overhead bell chiming, you know it’s time to board. You get on the bus, or train, whatever it may be and begin to look for your spot. Beside the heavier guy, no thanks – beside the mother with baby, no [headache] thanks – there at the end of the train is the perfect spot, one for me and one for, you? Who is this you you’re referring to? Why your bag of course! You’ve actually sought out that spot not only to be away from the crowd but to give your precious purse safe refuge.
It’s almost like a highschool, if you think about it. We all finally get to the place — the bus — and we frantically look to see where to sit; beside the nerds, the jocks or even Ms. Popularity herself, that is if your invited. What most people need to be mindful is that like this cafeteria in-a-sense, a bus is very much so a public space; in being a public space, it’s meant to be shared equally by those who are using it. Not for their shopping, and not for their purse, but to be sat on — what a concept –. I can’t count the times that I’ve seen people having to stand only because someone’s taking up space, or really, a seat.
It also comes back on the fellow riders now too. They’re there standing, watching the stops go by as a seat in-front lay bare with nothing more than a piece of leather or cloth on it. But because of social awkwardness, the kind when we don’t know someone, you’re left standing because your to scared to ask to sit down. It’s a vicious cycle really; girl puts purse down, guys stars at purse, wants to sit but doesn’t want to ask girl to move it out of fear of anger — right? –. Maybe next time when riding your favorite mode of transport, be mindful of those around and opt for the ol’ bag-in-the-lap routine, instead of making some poor old woman stand!